Here’s the golden rule: do not try to please a woman. Do not say what a woman wants to hear if you don’t mean it! This is so… unalpha.

Do’s

I suggest you follow dating expert Tiffany Taylor’s suggestion by keeping it simple. It’s ok to ask a woman how her day has been at the beginning of your interaction.

Ask questions from a place of genuine curiosity and not as a way of filling the conversation.

Be spontaneous. Women do not like pickup lines. They do not like prepared scripts as well.

Be aware that words only represent 7% of actual communication. 93% of actual communication are body language and tone of voice. In the end, what you say is not really that important, as long as you don’t … (see above)

If there’s a blank in the middle of the conversation, rejoice! Being comfortable with silent is the sign of a confident man… And I should say the sign of a sexually confident man. Moments of silence are an opportunity for you to relax your gaze into a woman’s eyes. For women, those moments are very much like a prelude to lovemaking. So enjoy silence. Imagine a woman you’re in bed with talking endlessly… what a turn-off! And then… Be proactively silent! Sometimes in a conversation, the best thing to say is nothing at all – and this especially applies in conversations with women.

Emotions rule over logic with women. Stir up a woman’s emotions instead of engaging her logical mind.

Keep it light, especially if you’re at the beginning of your relationships, irregardless of a serious or casual relationship.

Speak about what you’re passionate about. This will come across in your sub-communication and you’ll be able to captivate the woman’s attention.

Discover her values. How does she filter the world?

Share commonalities. Rejoice in your differences.

Conversation is communication. Communication is a two-way process. Demonstrate your ability to be an effective listener.

Pay attention to how the conversation unfolds. Do you speak most of the time or do you have to deal with a parrot?  What you’re looking for is equilibrium. Maybe you will have to provide most of the conversation in order to build comfort. But in the end you don’t want to be the one who speaks all the time neither do you want to be the listener all the time.

Don’t take yourself too seriously. Do not hesitate to reveal something embarrassing about you. Most men try to boast their accomplishments in order to impress women. “So you’re a rocket scientist? That don’t impress me much” as Shania Twain states in her song. Just do the opposite by making fun of yourself at times.

Stay comfortable with whatever topic is brought up. If you stay cool, she’ll stay cool.

Escalate the conversation or verbal ladder. This is the technical expression for designating flirting. You don’t know how to flirt? Well, tell me what’s the differences between those two sentences: “Yeah, so today we signed an agreement to extend our cooperation with our main supplier.” and “Mmmh, if it wasn’t for the people around us, I’ll take you on this table right here right now.” The first sentence is flat, fact-based and contains zero emotion. Remember, emotions rule over logic. You have to be the kind of man who stirs woman’s emotions easily.

If you’re kinda new to the dating scene, you can use techniques like David Deangelo’s cocky and funny in order to gain experience. Then if you want to use some more advanced material, you can use Swinggcat’s stuff which is all based around the idea of being the prize and challenging woman. For example, if a woman states something she doesn’t like about you, you can use short witty comebacks such as “I’m glad you like it!”.

Make sure you manage waypoints properly. Examples of waypoints: getting a woman’s contact info, venue changing – for example moving from a loud area to a cosier, intimate area –, getting to your or her place.

To sum everything up in one sentence: lead the interaction and move it forward while being un-reactive to everything that may arise.

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