03.30.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 2:24 am by webmaster
Whoa… another question and answer newsletter I receive in my e-mail. This article is really interesting especially for those newbie who is wondering how and when to kiss. Read on…
QUESTION FROM A READER:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Hey Joseph,
I have been using your emails and applying them in real life, and I got a girlfriend!
But I heard from a one of her friends that she wants me to kiss her next time we meet, and this would be her first kiss.
One of my friends told me to do it while she’s in mid-sentence because girls love that. Is that true?
How should I do it? I don’t have any experience with kissing either cause this would be my first as well. Also are there signs that I should look for when she’s ready or can you give me an idea of the general environment we should be in when we kiss? Thanks.
Sincerely,
Kissing Virgin
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03.26.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 4:06 am by webmaster
It is important to know what you’re looking for in a woman. And typologies and classifications are very useful for the screening process. Being able to quickly notice female typology gives you better chances of knowing if you want to deal further with a woman.
Before we learn about those women we should almost avoid like the plague, let’s take a look at some methodologies. Women can be described according to many continuums.
There’s the high drive – low drive (HD – LD) continuum which describes women sexual drive. Pick up artists and seducers tend to be high drive. And since you’re reading this article, I’ll assume that you’re an artists of some level in the making and hence high drive.
There’s the high self-esteem – low self-esteem (HSE – LSE) continuum which explores the level of a woman’s self-esteem. A woman’s relationship with her parents – and more specifically with her father – is a key determinant of a woman’s altitude on this continuum.
There’s also a feminine – masculine continuum. Indeed, some women are very comfortable in their feminine energy while other women display some very masculine traits (see below).
Enough of the theory. Here are some types of women you should avoid and my favourite tips on how to recognize them.
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03.21.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 1:04 am by webmaster
Maybe you’re one of those guys who’re quite skeptical when it comes to online dating.
The reality is a lot of people actually meet through Internet dating sites. It works for them whether they’re looking for a casual encounter or for the love of their life. As a result, the Internet is also responsible for producing dozens and dozens of babies around the world.Or maybe you didn’t get a date in a while. And you don’t want to take the risk of dating someone from your job. Or perhaps you’re kind of an hermit who can count the people in his social circle with a single hand? And so now you consider trying online dating.
So is it possible to get a date using online personal?
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03.19.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 3:35 am by webmaster
When a man walks into a room, the women in the place are sizing him up instantly, consciously or not. What are they sizing up?
Dating expert Tiffany Taylor did an interesting survey. She asked a panel of women the following question: “What do you look for in a guy, when you are deciding whether you should give him a chance with you or not?”
Guess what came first? Confidence, for 61% of the interviewees. Indeed, try to ask some women directly, and some if not most of them will answer: “Confidence.”
Yeah but… What does confidence exactly mean? It is one of those words we often use without necessarily having a clear grasp of the concept.
First, let’s try to define what confidence is not. Mike Pilinski suggests it is the absence of embarrassment.
Then we could try to study movie characters. Think James Bond. I believe most of you would agree that he’s quite much the epitome of the confident man. What can we observe about him? – I suggest you picture Sean Connery rather than Timothy Dalton by the way – well, for instance, he has an innate ability to keep his cool whatever the circumstances, including while being around beautiful women. What else can we tell about Mr. Bond? He goes for what he wants. He’s fearless. He always gets the girl. And he’s sometimes bordering on arrogance.
Ok… that does not help that much. A more pressing question is: can you improve your confidence? The answer is yes. Then…what is the best method?
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03.17.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 2:04 am by webmaster
Getting girls to feel an attraction for you - that isn’t simply based on your looks, the contents of your wallet or the car you’ve got parked outside - can be really tricky.After all, how are men supposed to know what each girl’s looking for without asking?
If you DID ask, you know your chances would be small, after all, no girl wants a guy approaching her with needy questions - she wants a confident man who somehow seems to know what she’s after and can give it to her.
So how do you do it?
How do you become the man that effortlessly exudes confidence, dominance and presence, without turning into an arrogant poser or desperate wannabe? 
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03.15.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 3:22 am by webmaster
Another astounding question and answer article that will sure thunderstruck most of you, especially the answer to the 2nd question. Read on…
Question:
“Hi Swinggcat,
I just read your newsletter about having women in your life and it really rang true to me. I think too many guys discard both the usefulness and pleasure of having female friends.
It’s actually something I’ve tried to maintain for myself, but I’ve had a problem with it I’d hope you could help me with. See, one thing I noticed during my college years was that there were two types of women:
1) The women I wanted to go out with but wanted to be friends with me; and
2) The women I wanted as friends but didn’t want anything to do with me at all! It was very strange. There would be women I wanted to be just platonic with but they just didn’t want to hang around me. However, when I pursued a girl (and didn’t get her of course), she was more than happy to have me as a “good friend”
Do you have any insight into that?
I’d appreciate any tips you could give me.
By the way, your book is great.”
– D from San Diego, CA
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03.13.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 10:14 am by webmaster
One thing that is critical for developing attraction with a woman that will lead to your eventual seduction success is learning how to build and nurture the sexual tension between you.Remember that when you first begin to interact with a woman, unless she already has a strong initial attraction for you - sometimes known as “chemistry”, you are in a neutral zone with her. This is a place where she has yet to make up her mind as to whether you are interesting to her or not.
Now, you can choose to sift through dozens and dozens of women looking for the few that you have that instant “chemistry” with, but I find it much more practical to stimulate the woman’s attraction so that she has that chemistry right away, and then I can choose whether or not to act on my own attraction. It’s like getting a pre-approved loan and knowing you COULD go out and buy that new Porsche, but it’s YOUR choice.
This, guys, is what seduction is all about. Having your own choice as to whether a woman interests YOU or not, not the other way around.
Back to the Neutral Zone (and I’m not talking about that Star Trek term, either…)
In order to get that tension going - a necessary tension - you need to zap her out of her neutral funk and get her into feeling EXCITEMENT. There are many ways to do this:
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03.11.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 7:02 am by webmaster
“Hey should men pay on every date?” You actually can use this as a conversation starter by asking women their opinion on this very topic.What are the common answers we generally get by asking this question?
Some people would say that men should not act stingy. We also have dating experts like David Deangelo or Swinggcat who are from the opinion that paying on dates is a form of supplication, i.e. it is a way of trying to please women. And then you should almost never pay on dates or you should almost never buy women dinner.
I suggest this first rule: if you’re the kind of guy who tends to pay on dates and that you have underlying motives…Stop doing it! Why ?
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03.09.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 1:39 am by webmaster
Ah ha! A very interesting research found by Guegen. Read on …
A good-looking man approached 120 women in a night club over a period of three weeks, and asked them to dance. It was in the name of science – the man was an assistant to the psychologist Nicolas Guegen. Remarkably, of the 60 women who he touched lightly on the arm, 65 per cent agreed to a dance, compared with just 43 per cent of the 60 women who he asked without making any physical contact. A second study involved three male research assistants approaching 240 women in the street and asking them for their phone numbers. Among those 120 women who the researchers touched lightly on the arm, 19 per cent agreed to share their number, compared with 10 per cent of the women with whom no physical contact was made.
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03.07.08
Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 5:59 am by webmaster
We’ve all been there before…
We had a girl we KNEW was into us, but forsome reason or another, we chickened out and didn’t make our move.
After that, it was OVER.
Opportunity gone - bye, bye!
Recently, I got an email about this very problem…
QUESTION FROM A READER>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Hi Joseph, I have a quick question for you. Do you think there is a point were if you don’t make a physical move that it is too late to salvage?
Just for context, I was seeing the woman, probably saw her about 4-5 times or so and every time we spend about 5-6 hours together and had a really good time. Definitely felt like we connected. She’s not the most physical person but I could tell that she was into me I just had to make a move. I learned not to take it as a failure but I clammed up and did not make a move.
Now I would like your opinion if you have time.
I haven’t seen her in about two weeks but have had brief emails with her. She’s been telling me that she’s been really busy with a new job and school and hasn’t had time to make plans. I took this as a ‘not interested anymore’, but she continues to write.
I’m droning on here so I guess my question really is if you chicken out well past the point of making a connection, is it salvageable or should I just take this as a learning experience and move on?
I think I answered my own question here but am interested on your opinion about the timing of making a move and when you feel it’s too late.
Thanks again for everything.
Mike
MY RESPONSE>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
First of all, let me say this:
THIS IS A COMMON PROBLEM!
There are SO many guys who either know the time is right and don’t act on it, or they miss the signals the girl is sending out entirely.
Mike’s question is: Is there a way to salvage this situation?
My answer to him is: Yes, but its very difficult and not guaranteed to work.
And I’ll tell you why…
If a girl is interested in you, there’s going to be a point where she WANTS you to make a move. If you continue to pass up this escalation of physical connection, she is going to start thinking that you just aren’t into her. And when that happens, in her mind, she just WRITES YOU OFF. You are instantly plopped in the “oh well,” category.
So that later, when you DO finally work up the nerve to make your move, the girl is TOTALLY not into it… Because she’s already moved on.
At this point the only thing you can do is hope she is still attracted to you, and start flirting with her all over again.
This can be difficult because she may not want to waste time dating you if she thinks you’re not interested in her. But if you ARE able to get together with her again, you have to really up the flirting WITHOUT coming off as needy.
That’s the real trick.
In fact, the same strategies I outline in my ebook “Escape The Friend Zone” apply directly to a salvage situation like this. (That’s a free bonus when you download a copy of The Art Of Approaching.)
But as always, the best defense is a good offence.
Translation: DON’T LET THIS SITUATION HAPPEN!
It is very important that you get physical with a woman as fast as you can.
Why?
Because the sooner the two of you can establish a physical connection, the clearer your romantic relationship becomes.
Delaying this or hesitating WILL serve to blow your chances.
You need to work hard to recognize when the right time to get physical is. If you’ve followed the instructions I layout in my ebook The Art Of Approaching, then you know exactly what you have to do to make sure this happens…
Establish a connection.
Flirt to show interest.
Read body language to know when the time is right.
These are all very important steps, and if you skip one of them YOU WILL PAY FOR IT.
Do not allow yourself to let an opportunity pass you by when it presents itself.
The best way to do that is to learn my strategies.
If you really want to get goodand nab that special girl, download my ebook today by clicking the link below:
The Art Of Approaching
And if you REALLY want to get into advanced tactics, you have to check out my multi-media home study course. Click the link below to take a gander:
Advance Course
Once you learn these simple relationship secrets, you’ll always know when to make your move.
Talk soon,
Joseph Matthews
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