Recently, I got an email about this very problem…

QUESTION FROM A READER>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Hi Joseph, I have a quick question for you. Do you think there is a point were if you don’t make a physical move that it is too late to salvage?

Just for context, I was seeing the woman, probably saw her about 4-5 times or so and every time we spend about 5-6 hours together and had a really good time. Definitely felt like we connected. She’s not the most physical person but I could tell that she was into me I just had to make a move. I learned not to take it as a failure but I clammed up and did not make a move.

Now I would like your opinion if you have time.

I haven’t seen her in about two weeks but have had brief emails with her. She’s been telling me that she’s been really busy with a new job and school and hasn’t had time to make plans. I took this as a ‘not interested anymore’, but she continues to write.

I’m droning on here so I guess my question really is if you chicken out well past the point of making a connection, is it salvageable or should I just take this as a learning experience and move on?

I think I answered my own question here but am interested on your opinion about the timing of making a move and when you feel it’s too late.

Thanks again for everything.

Mike  

MY RESPONSE>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

First of all, let me say this:

THIS IS A COMMON PROBLEM!

There are SO many guys who either know the time is right and don’t act on it, or they miss the signals the girl is sending out entirely.

Mike’s question is:  Is there a way to salvage this situation?

My answer to him is:  Yes, but its very difficult and not guaranteed to work.

And I’ll tell you why…

If a girl is interested in you, there’s going to be a point where she WANTS you to make a move. If you continue to pass up this escalation of physical connection, she is going to start thinking that you just aren’t into her. And when that happens, in her mind, she just WRITES YOU OFF. You are instantly plopped in the “oh well,” category.

So that later, when you DO finally work up the nerve to make your move, the girl is TOTALLY not into it… Because she’s already moved on.

At this point the only thing you can do is hope she is still attracted to you, and start flirting with her all over again.

This can be difficult because she may not want to waste time dating you if she thinks you’re not interested in her. But if you ARE able to get together with her again, you have to really up the flirting WITHOUT coming off as needy.

That’s the real trick.

In fact, the same strategies I outline in my ebook “Escape The Friend Zone” apply directly to a salvage situation like this. (That’s a free bonus when you download a copy of The Art Of Approaching.)

But as always, the best defense is a good offence.

Translation:  DON’T LET THIS SITUATION HAPPEN!

It is very important that you get physical with a woman as fast as you can.

Why?

Because the sooner the two of you can establish a physical connection, the clearer your romantic relationship becomes.

Delaying this or hesitating WILL serve to blow your chances.

You need to work hard to recognize when the right time to get physical is. If you’ve followed the instructions I layout in my ebook The Art Of Approaching, then you know exactly what you have to do to make sure this happens…

Establish a connection.

Flirt to show interest.

Read body language to know when the time is right.

These are all very important steps, and if you skip one of them YOU WILL PAY FOR IT.

Do not allow yourself to let an opportunity pass you by when it presents itself.

The best way to do that is to learn my strategies.

If you really want to get goodand nab that special girl, download my ebook today by clicking the link below:

The Art Of Approaching

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Once you learn these simple relationship secrets, you’ll always know when to make your move.

Talk soon,

Joseph Matthews