03.30.08
Girl Kissing Tactics…
Whoa… another question and answer newsletter I receive in my e-mail. This article is really interesting especially for those newbie who is wondering how and when to kiss. Read on…
QUESTION FROM A READER:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Hey Joseph,
I have been using your emails and applying them in real life, and I got a girlfriend!
But I heard from a one of her friends that she wants me to kiss her next time we meet, and this would be her first kiss.
One of my friends told me to do it while she’s in mid-sentence because girls love that. Is that true?
How should I do it? I don’t have any experience with kissing either cause this would be my first as well. Also are there signs that I should look for when she’s ready or can you give me an idea of the general environment we should be in when we kiss? Thanks.
Sincerely,
Kissing Virgin
MY RESPONSE:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
First of all, congratulations on landing a “girlfriend.”.
I get emails all the time from guys who’ve had amazing success using my tips and tactics to land hook-ups, girlfriends, and even wives!
But it seems that you’re kind-of young and just starting to gain experience in the world of women… (which is good, because the younger you start, the better you’ll be when you’re older!)
But for old farts like me, allow me to share some friendly male advice — First off, I would never consider a girl my “girlfriend” until I have at least made-out with her.
Why is this?
Because too many guys meet a girl they get along with, go out on a few dates, and think she’s their “girlfriend” when in reality, she’s still playing the field.
This is how many guys get their hearts broken.
A girl’s willingness to spend time with you is not the primary factor in determining her “girlfriend” status.
If she’s willing to kiss you and make out with you, that’s the FIRST STEP to solidifying her in a romantic capacity.
Why is this?
Because kissing allows her (and you) to judge how close you want to get with the other person. If the kissing isn’t good – then all the other stuff kissing leads to might not be good either!
So kissing is important.
But too often, guys really can drop the ball when it comes time to “make the move” and go in for the kiss.
Seriously, have you ever had a time where you’re with a girl, and you really wanted to kiss her, but you were too nervous to do so and let the opportunity pass you by? Or maybe you actually went in for the kiss and the entire act turned into an awkward moment because you didn’t calibrate right?
Well: You’re not alone.
This happens A LOT.
But when it does happen, and happen right, it can be magical.
In my younger, wilder years, I had met a beautiful girl that I took out on a date. We went out to dinner, then went dancing, and then bowling (for those of you who know my mini-date theory, this will make sense). The entire time, we were having a blast!
Eventually, we ended up at an all-night diner at around 2 o’clock in the morning. We were sitting across from each other, laughing, joking, etc. She was drinking coffee, I was nibbling some fries… And I just KNEW it was time to kiss her.
But like most guys, in my younger years, I was inexperienced and nervous about the whole ordeal. I mean, I didn’t want to blow it with this girl, but I knew I had to take the chance. So I looked her in the eyes and said: ”Come here and sit next to me. I want to show you something.”
Suddenly, the look on her face changed. It was as though she knew what I was getting at (even though at the time, I was too scared witless to notice!). So she got up and slid into the booth right next to me.
I put my arm around her and looked her in the eyes…
And I slowly moved in…
She closed her eyes…
And I then proceeded to give her an “eskimo kiss.”
(For those of you who don’t know what that is, its when you rub your noses together in a gentle, nuzzling way.)
Suddenly she opened her eyes and said:
“What was that?”
“Uh, an… eskimo kiss?” I replied nervously.
“You called me over here to give me an ESKIMO kiss?” she asked.
It was in that moment I knew how retarded I was being. So I threw caution to the wind and kissed her right there. This lead to a massive make-out session that then lead to other stuff… but for the purpose of this email, I’ll stay on topic. =)
So as you can see, she was READY to be kissed, but it took me a moment to realize I was being stupid and my fear was holding me back.
It was a valuable lesson for me.
Here are some simple guidelines to follow when it comes to kissing women that will help you to avoid acting like the idiot I was…
First of all, don’t just kiss her when YOU feel like it. Kiss her when SHE feels like it.
Sometimes the woman you’re with will be ready to kiss you very quickly. Other times, it might take her a while to be in the mood.
There are a couple ways to know when she’s ready.
The first is: Does she touch you a lot?
The power of touch is very erotic, no matter how you look at it. Is she reaching over and gently touching your arm when she talks to you?
Does she hug you?
Does she tap you playfully?
Any form of touching is a signal of interest from a woman. This is why dancing can be so powerful. As I like to say, if a woman is willing to dance with you, she’s willing to make out with you! It’s an extension of the same thing. =)
The second thing you need to test for is:
how does she react when you touch her?
Is she comfortable with you touching areas such as her hair, cheek, neck or shoulder?
If she is, it means she’s comfortable enough with you physically to be willing to kiss her.
If she isn’t comfortable with this kind of touching, back off for a bit and try again later to see how she responds.
The third thing is: Look at her eyes!
When she’s ready to kiss you, you’ll notice two things about her eyes.
First of all – her pupils will be dilated. The bigger her pupils are, the more aroused she is.
Second of all – if her eyes are flittering back and forth between your eyes (otherwise known as the “eye scan” movement), that’s a 100% GO signal that she’s ready to be kissed!
(Seriously, if you see this eye scan, don’t hesitate – go for it right there!)
Nowadays, here’s how I like to initiate the kiss…
When I know she’s ready, I’ll reach out my hand and cup her cheek, and I’ll be looking her directly in the eye.
Then I’ll slowly move forward and gently kiss her lips.
Then I’ll kiss her again and again a little more firmly.
If she doesn’t respond, I’ll pull back, if she does, I’ll take it further.
Now, I could go into more detail, but this newsletter is already running a bit long for my tastes.
If you REALLY want to get good at this, I suggest you check out my book “The Art Of Approaching.” In it, you’ll find some killer tactics that will help you make your move.
Check it out by clicking this link:
And if you want to get some SERIOUS in-depth coaching, check out my advanced multi-media course.
This will take you light-years ahead of the learning curve. You can check that out here:
Once I’m done with you, you’ll be a lean, mean, romance machine.
Talk soon,
Joseph Matthews
