05.01.08
How To Ask A Girl Out Like No One Else
Creative Ways To Ask A Girl Out
This article is based on one principle: the principle of differentiation. In the business world, we use the term USP or Unique Selling Proposition. A company must have a USP in order to differentiate itself from the competition.
How does it apply to dating?
In two words: Stand Out!
When you interact with the beautiful gender, you certainly want to stand out.
And that applies to asking a girl out.
With this article I want to distinguish between two cases: either know the girl you want to ask out or you just met her.
If you already know the girl, check first if you’re not in the “let’s just be friend” zone. How to know if you’re in the friend zone? Simple, the girl treats you like one of her girl friend. There’s no sexual tension whatsoever forget about trying to date the girl and move on to another one unless you have transformed into a master pickup artist in the meantime.
At some point, I might write something about this friend zone stuff and how to get out of it.
Now, second case, you know the girl but you feel you’re not in the dead friend zone.
In that case…well… read on.
Really the two cases actually are: you’re either in the friend zone or you’re not.
How to ask a girl out
Well, first rule is… don’t ask.
Indeed.
So do not ask “could we hang out together sometimes?”
What would it say about you?
Weakness and indecisiveness.
Second rule is… bring her into your world.
When asking a girl out, or rather leading her into a date, you want it to be about activities you enjoy first and foremost.
And you get to know the girl in that context.
Third rule is… if you call the girl for the first time… don’t ask her out at the end of this first phone conversation. Instead just chat with her and build curiosity. Now that’s creative! The purpose of 99,99% of guys who call a girl for the first time is to ask her out. Instead I suggest going for the get together only on your next phone conversation.
And again, don’t fall in the trap of waiting too long otherwise you risk appearing as a guy who doesn’t know what he wants or who doesn’t go for what he wants.
Next I want to go into the how’s of suggesting a date.
Now if you’re familiar with NLP, you can do what I call a future pacing. What you do is that you just describe in vivid terms what you’re going to do with the girl. For example, you can say, “Yeah, we’re so going to Vegas so Elvis can marry us, but suddenly our car gets a flat tire on a lonely Nevada road and we’re forced to spend the night in a seedy motel where the cabel is busted with nothing to do but have amazing, amazing sex all night long.”
And then you say “No we’re not going to do that… We’re going to do something even more fun… but you’ll see when we hang out.”
Now that should build anticipation in her.
And finally, the most important thing is not how to ask a girl out… but when !!
You don’t want to suggest a date too early. You want to make sure you have some basic attraction. How do you know? Well you have to feel a little bit of tension between the girl and you. And then you need some comfort. That is you have to feel that the girl somewhat trusts you. When you have both, go ahead and ask a girl out.
Now go get her!
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