Let me get the first part straight.

If you want me to tell you what is the most important trait between being romantic and being seductive in getting a girl, I would clearly say… seductive.

Why?

Because it is a prerequisite if you want to get a girl into your bed. (That’s your objective right?)

To me, trust and seduction are the two necessary ingredients that lead to sex.

If you’re just being romantic, you may create frustration in girls. Because they expect you to close the deal. Otherwise why would you be romantic in the first place? By being romantic for the sake of being romantic, you risk falling into the nice guy trap.

Remember, at times women want to witness your ‘dark’ seductive side. In other words, being seductive alone could get you laid. Being romantic alone, not.

And so there’s a fine line between being romantic and seductive. And this line is call the friend zone frontier. Make sure to stay on the good side of the line.

With that said, how to mix romance and seduction optimally?

Well, it’s actually pretty simple.

First create a romantic scenery or background. For instance, you can go watch a beautiful sunset together. Or you can take the girl to a dinner and enjoy fine tasty food, with candlelight and some soothing music. Or you can have in picnic in nature. Check my article on romantic ideas to read more on this.

As for the conversation, you can share commonalities, reveal some secrets or talk about childhood memories. You don’t need a white horse and knight armour to display your romantic side. Quite the contrary. Women find it very romantic when you reveal more of yourself – without revealing too much – and when you do not hide behind your persona, mask or armour.

Now that you’ve played your romantic cards, it’s time to go for the close.

I know, this last sentence does not sound very romantic

Ok after you got to know each other and got some chemistry going on, it’s time to practice your seductive talking.

For a great example, watch the opening scene of the movie Don Juan de Marco with Johnny Depp. I can’t think of a better example of smooth seductive talking.

The key is to trigger a woman’s emotions. Seductive and captivating talking is the most ancient and effective way of getting women, since you directly aim at their emotions. For this you should use very descriptive words with a good tonality.

And of course talking is just a minor tool in your seduction toolbox. Check my article on how to be seductive.

By displaying both your romantic and seductive sides, you’ll be a out of ordinary dream guy. A woman actually gets a tangible sense off men who’re aware of the deeper levels of sexual communication and who sprinkle traditional ‘romantic’, ‘chivalrous’, or ‘gentlemanly’ traits into the mix too.

And finally, especially for you romantic guys out there, just make sure you don’t do these things without using also the context of sexual communication. Use romance as spice, not as the main dish.

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