06.19.08
The Keys Out of Neediness
This article is a follow-up to “Signs You’re Being a Needy Man.”
First off I want to make a key distinction between neediness and desire.
Desire is fine! Neediness is more than desire, in a bad way. It’s the feeling that you must have something, that you will somehow be doomed unless you get that which you need.
This post is about needy ‘loser’ type behavior that must be avoided.
Behavioral keys
Some practical tips.
First, and this is common sense, interact with as many women as possible be it online or personal.
Of course you don’t have to start a relationship with all the women you meet literally. But in order to help you move from a neediness to an abundance frame, you have to surround yourself with the female charm at all times.
So just have enough women in circulation to always have one around. This is key.
Then, act on your impulse.
Let’s say you’re in a pub or a club – or any social gathering for that matter. The moment you see a girl you like, you should interact with her and go with the flow of the moment, without thinking too much.
Mental keys
Now I want to share with you a very simple formula to remove any bad energy associated with the experience of neediness.
First off take a piece of blank paper and a pen.
Then write down at least 25 reasons you are the prize and that women should chase you.
Really take the time to do it.
Include everything you can think of in your list. Things like “I’m smart”, “I have a sense of style”, “I accomplished x, y, z”, etc. Find your own stuff.
And once you get to 25 – take all the time in the world you need to reach those 25 - you will begin to realize that you are a more high value guy than you realize and the neediness should start to disappear. If not, you may suffer from a self-esteem issue that goes beyond the scope of this article.
Anyway try this exercise.
Focus on your lifestyle
Here’s a final piece of advice.
I think you’ll find that the more you go out, the more you’ll find that there is a difference between having a feeling or perception of “neediness” and actually being needy. Despite my experience, I still have feelings of neediness for certain women who I have a good connections with. It’s really a challenge not to act on the urges to talk with them, hang with them all the time. And the urges can be so strong that they can interfere wih the rest of your life.
What will help you divorce your feelings of neediness from actually acting on these feelings are simply to take a greater interest in other parts of your life other than girls.
Focus on studies, money, friends, family, etc. Anything outside women that are of interest to you.
These things won’t necessarily get your rid of your needy feelings for ever, but they will keep you busy and at the same time make you more productive.
And once you get a life, women find you much more desirable, because they see you have a lot going on and they have to fight for your attention.
And there’s nothing better than having a woman fight for your attention… other than having many women fight for your attention.
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