07.16.08
Why Are Women More Attracted To Alpha Man And Bad Boys
I’m sure you encountered one of those cases.
There’s this one woman who was in this crappy relationship, the dude kept being abusive to her but yet she couldn’t pull herself out of this situation.
Or there’s this one girl whom you were so deeply in love with that you were literally willing to give up you life for her. And yet she ended up with an absolute bastard who disregarded her but yet she still loved him so much.
Or remember that woman who’d rather receive insults from her ‘lover’ than the present that you painstakingly made or searched for her for the past three days and nights.
Ouch!
Sounds familiar?
What was going on here? What was wrong with those women?
At some point I said “enough”! It was time for me to understand and realize what was the psychology underlying all this baloney that was going on.
Shared traits of bad boys and alpha men
That’s when I found some documentation about so called “bad boys” and “alpha men”.
It was then I discovered that there were some traits in these two archetypes that made women very attracted to them.
A first trait that those archetypes share is that women feel protected around them. They are able to create a strong “us versus the rest of the world” feeling.
They are men who do no try to avoid conflict and generally take responsibilities for their actions. Unlike wussymen who try to please people all the time and hide behind a fake mask, they do not run away from a possible conflict.
Bad boys and alpha men share another distinct similarity in that they are people who know how to draw clear boundaries between what’s acceptable for them and what’s unacceptable.
They know exactly what they like and dislike in a woman. They know exactly who they are and what they want. Therefore they either love women deeply or hate them to the core.
Next bad boys and alpha men are people of leadership and adventure. They do not check for women’s approval. They take action, path the route and lead the way. And sure sometimes the action does not prove to be right. But higher risks come with this kind of lifestyle.
And finally the two main characteristics that bad boys and alpha men share is they’re able to elicit strong emotional reactions and trigger sexual attraction in women.
That’s why it’s almost impossible for them to fall in the friend zone.
Be The Man Not A Boy
One key distinction you want to keep in mind is that bad boys are on the dark side of the force.
Their bravado is actually a cover but deep inside all they feel is insecurity. Bad boys try to show confidence but they’re actually not confident at all.
They’re self-centered and borderline narcissistic. They use force and act abusive and arrogant as a way of hiding their true self
Alpha men are on the opposite end of the force. You may catch them acting nice most of the time but it’s from a true position of power.
They are people of honesty and integrity. They are able to act gently and empathically and do not throw their weights around.
Alpha men and bad boys may be people of ambition but they are on a different path.
Alpha men bring value. They not only work for themselves but also for the community whereas bad boys display more destructive patterns. They’re deeply egocentric and think first of themselves. Keep the picture of a drug dealer in your mind and you’ll get what I mean.
This comes down to emotional intelligence. Alpha men know how to manage their emotions and so keep them from destructing theirs and other’s life.
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