10.08.08

How Chemistry Is Build Between a Man and a Woman

Posted in Dating Advice (Men) at 8:25 am by webmaster

What Is Chemistry?

Have you ever been searching for love armed with a list of qualities desired in a mate or lover, such as honesty, fidelity, loyalty, sense of humor, intelligence, warmth, etc. ? Yet when that person appears you said, she’s a really nice person, but nothing clicked, just no “chemistry.”

A Scientific Explanation

Throughout history, mankind has deemed the heart the center of love. But scientists tell us love is all in our mind or brain. And fueled by chemicals and chemistry.

When two people are attracted to each other, a virtual explosion of adrenaline-like neurochemicals gush forth. Fireworks explode and we see stars. PEA or phenylethylamine is a chemical that speeds up the flow of information between nerve cells.

Also, involved in chemistry are dopamine and norepinephrine, chemical cousins of amphetamines. Dopamine makes us feel good and norepinephrine stimulates the production of adrenaline. It makes our heart race!

These three chemicals combine to give us infatuation or “chemistry.” It is why new lovers feel euphoric and energized, and float on air. It is also why new lovers can make love for hours and talk all night for weeks on end.

This is the chemistry or the love sparks we all seek.

How To ‘Create’ Chemistry

You can actually create a perfect chemistry experience with the right display of body language, speed and tone of voice, and attitude.

Let’s say you meet a very feminine woman who reveals a lot of submissive cues. You’ll be able to create instant chemistry by demonstrating a lot of dominant traits, such as leading the interaction, telling her what to do or what to wear.

You can also create chemistry by showing physical signs of affection from the get go. Hug the woman of your interest. Her body will then produce oxytocin.

The chemical oxytocin has indeed been termed the cuddling chemical. Linked to milk production in women, oxytocin makes women and men calmer and more sensitive to the feelings of others.

It plays an important role in romantic love as a sexual arousal hormone that signals orgasm and prompts cuddling between lovers before, during, and after lovemaking.

Oxytocin production is derived from both emotional and physical cues. So, for instance, by lowering your voice, or by looking at her in kind of a mysterious way, you’ll be able to create an image of sexual fantasy in her that will trigger the release of oxytocin in her body.

Then when infatuation subsides, a new group of chemicals takes over. This new type of chemical reward is created by endorphins.

These morphine-like opiates calm and reassure with intimacy, dependability, warmth, and shared experiences. Not as exciting or as stressful as PEA, but steadier and more addictive.

So by revealing a more intimate side of yourself and by sharing some very private experiences you had, you’ll be able to induce the production of endorphins.

Finally, the most surefire way of creating chemistry with the majority of women you encounter is to display mature father-figure traits.

What you can do is to protectively put your arm around her. She’ll then nestle her head on your shoulder. And together you’ll contemplate true love and happiness forever.

Love? No, just ‘chemistry’ and infatuation!

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